I’ve been spending a lot of time being busy lately. Busy with work, busy with kids, busy keeping my house clean. And all this busyness though, I am forgetting to take time for the little things. Relaxing with a cup of tea. Meditating. Writing. This needs to change.
Busyness is a choice. It is something that we do, I think, to keep ourselves from the reality what our lives actually are. When I’m busy I don’t think about the bills, I don’t think about how I’m going to make ends meet. I don’t think about the stress of Christmas or how my relationship with my boyfriend is…or is not going. It’s kind a like a drug, to be honest. When you’re busy, you feel accomplished. When you make it to the store, to the gym, to the meeting. When You get your house clean, and start three loads of laundry in one day you feel like you’re doing something with your life. In reality all you’re doing is wasting time, no different than if you were sitting in the bar. So what are we do about it? How do we combat being busy all the time especially once what has gotten into this habit. I have a few ideas:
- Make time for quiet. Just like you would put your workout on the calendar, your hair appointment, or your date night, schedule time for yourself as well. I’m not talking about gym time, I’m talking about quiet time.
- Start saying no. I recently heard that if your gut instinct is not to answer an invite with “Hell Yes!” your default answer should be no. Sure, there will be obligatory activities that you don’t want to go to that you must, but in reality those should be few and far between.
- Find an accountability partner. Tell your significant other or your best friend that you need to stop being busy. Then ask them to call you or text you in the evenings and ask “What you doing?”.
That’s how we quit avoiding life by being busy. Maybe it’s time I start.