It is the last day of February! My super nerdy, amazing, bass playing boyfriend JFTP, who got me hooked on the artist featured here today, has been putting up with me (and more specifically my children) for 5 whold months! I feel like if he…
Man. Do you ever have those moments when you wonder if your kid is going to make it to their next birthday?? You know, the whole “Sometimes I fear for my child’s safety. Specifically the one behind me rolling his eyes.”
Teenage defiance is very real. And, maybe it’s selective memory though my mother agrees, it is worse than it’s ever been.
There is an element of entitlement that has these kids thinking they shouldn’t have to follow rules. Or do chores. Or participate in anything that they don’t pick specifically for themselves.
Then you have the age old snotty, rude, snarky mouth and eye rolls that also come with these rough teenage years.
And if you’re a single parent, God blessed, you’re in for quite the ride. But there are things you can do! Some of these you’re going to look at and say “WTF, c? You’re joking, right?”. Nope. Here I am trying to survive teenager #2 (at home) and I can tell you that the opposite of all these things I’m going to tell you does NOT work. When I switched gears, so did the attitudes…at least to a manageable level.
So here goes…
• Keep Calm– I know this seems like a no-brainer, but I think we all struggle with it. They will try to push your buttons. And just constantly push your limits. By incident #3 our instinct is to just snap. But don’t.
• Keep Your Voice Down – Don’t raise your voice, raise your argument. Another element of keeping calm. If anything, remind yourself that they almost instantly tune you out when you yell.
• Shorten the Punishment – I was always good for taking something away for a week. Sometimes more. Resist that urge. It just makes them realize they can live with/without whatever punishment has been doled out. Keep it to 48-72 hours.
• Be Matter-of-Fact – Don’t let ‘em suck you in to a discussion. When they get you talking they can get you frustrated. “You were 2 hours late, you can’t go anywhere for the next 2 days.” Leave it at that.
• Don’t Argue Late or Early – One is never emotionally stable at midnight, or 5am. Let it lie until you’ve slept/had coffee. Approach all conflict when you’re refreshed.
These things have helped me curb some of the teenage BS in my house. I don’t think it will ever go away completely, it wouldn’t be natural. But at least I’m regaining some of my sanity 🙂
I’d love to hear how you handle it! Let us know in the comments.
Sometimes there’s nothing that can help you remember that everything is going to be OK than music. When I am losing faith and hope seems like a pipe dream, I flip on the Christian music channel and just listen. Listen to the words of hope…
Dammit. I’m late. But it was so good I’m posting it anyways.
Every year on Fat Tuesday I make Jambalaya. Every. Stinking. Year. This year I wanted to change things up, get rid of the rice, and keep all that amazing flavor. And boy oh boy did I succeed. Sadly, I only took pictures through the veg prep. Dammit, again.
Jambalaya Stuffed Chicken
2 tbsp olive oil
4 split chicken breasts, butterflied and pounded thin
1 lb pork sausage* or store bought andouiille removed from casing.
2 bell peppers, diced
1 medium onion, diced
2 ribs celery, diced
2 carrots, shredded
Cajun seasoning to taste
2 bay leaves
1/4 cup chicken broth
*make your own andouille!
- 2 garlic cloves, grated
- 2 tbsp cayenne
- 1 tbsp thyme
- 1/2 tbsp sage
- salt to taste
- pepper to taste
- Preheat oven to 400
- Brown pork sausage & seasonings/andouille over medium heat until no longer pink. Set aside
- Prep all of your veggies, getting an even dice on all
- Heat skillet and 1 tbsp of the olive oil over medium heat and get the veg sauteeing over medium heat
- While your veg is cooking, prep your chicken tits, getting them to an even thickness. Sprinkle them with cajun seasoning and set aside.
- When veg has finished, wipe out pan, drop the other tbsp oil, and keep over medium heat as you put together the chicken
- Add 1/4 of the sausage and 1/4 of the veg to one side of each piece of chicken. Roll chicken around filling and secure with a toothpick or two
- Sear the chicken on all sides and move to a 9×13 baking dish.
- add the chicken broth and bay leaves, sprinkle with more cajun seasoning, and cover tightly.
- Bake chicken for 20-30 minutes or until they are no longer pink.
If you try it, let me know what you think!!
Oh hey, guys! It’s Valentines Day! And Ash Wednesday. What a combination *eye roll*
No worries, I’ve got it figured out…Spicy Crabby Thai noodle bowls. It’s going to be amazing 🙂
But food is not what we’re here to talk about. I want to talk about looooove.
JFTP is hands down the very best man I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. He is kind and patient, fun and nerdy. And he makes me feel like everything is right with the world. I adore him oh so much.
I could go on and on, or post a million and one songs that make me think of him. But this really sums us up.
Happy Valentines day, peeps. Love hard.
‘Cause love’s such an old-fashioned word
And love dares you to care for the people on the edge of the night
And loves dares you to change our way of caring about ourselves
Putting your relationship on auto-pilot does you no favors. You cannot expect things to grow themselves. Any relationship, romantic or otherwise, is like a garden. It needs to be paid attention to if you want to see growth.
Good day? Talk. Bad day? Talk. Angry? Frustrated? Happy? Talk. And when you do it, don’t blame and accuse, but THINK. Is it True? Helpful? Important? Necessary? Kind?
Get Out Together
Just because you’ve been together for 1, 5, 100 years, doesn’t mean the romance should be gone. Go out on dates. Spend time anywhere without the kids. You can make anything into a romantic day or evening if you have the proper mindset.
Remember the Little Things
A text in the middle of the day. Flowers for no reason. A hug or kiss. A sincere compliment. Or a surprise dinner date. They’re not earth-shattering but can make someone’s day.
Keep it Fresh
Like I said, don’t get old. Mix things up! The restaurant, music, pub, lingerie ;). Take a class together. Go to a museum. Something. Anything. The key thing is to keep jumping the vast chasm of domesticity. Don’t let shit get stale, or everything will start to mold.
I forgot about my Song of the Day post until this morning. I mentioned that to JFTP. In the interim, I posted, Song of the Day – Mine. But when he did respond, this was what I got. I wasn’t sure what version to post, but chose this one since we are going to Anthrax on Friday! 🤘🏻
Great, GREAT song. He’s not, though. He’s amazing. And I love him.